TheHipHopBillGates
09-22-2003, 11:47 AM
http://editorial.careers.msn.com/articles/homophobic/
View Full Version : What to Do When Your Boss Is a Homophobe
joeyjoey
09-22-2003, 02:08 PM
My boss was gay and always made fun of straight people lol.
darius
09-22-2003, 06:54 PM
is there any precise definition of a homophobe? of course the literal breakdown of the word implies a "fear of" concept, but i hear it used in so many different context that i'm wondering what exactly is the exact definition, classification of a homophobe.
some questions to think about:
can someone think that homosexuality is morally incorrect and not be a homophobe?
can someone dislike the concept of homosexuality, not necessarily the individual who practices it, and not be a homophobe?
would discriminated based on sexual preference make u a homophobe or a sexual-orientationist?
some questions to think about:
can someone think that homosexuality is morally incorrect and not be a homophobe?
can someone dislike the concept of homosexuality, not necessarily the individual who practices it, and not be a homophobe?
would discriminated based on sexual preference make u a homophobe or a sexual-orientationist?
joeyjoey
09-22-2003, 07:21 PM
Homophobia is technically the wrong word. Not liking gays doesn't necessarily have anything to do with being scared of them.
Leon
09-23-2003, 08:43 AM
Darius, the difference in homophobia is the grade of tolerance and acceptance.
When you tolerate another lifestyle, religion, culture, etc... you are not accepting these entities as something you approve of, however, you live and let live by not obstructing people's lifestyles.
Homophobia is applied here because of the most primitive reaction in something you do not tolerate is fear and when an animal fears -- as reasearch has proven countless times -- you tend to either fight or flight.
In the workplace, those people who can not tolerate a homosexual lifestyle tend to either quit, or -- as the case to be in this article -- those above you in corporate ladder tend to fight. As the article presented, that fight can come in different forms.
When you tolerate another lifestyle, religion, culture, etc... you are not accepting these entities as something you approve of, however, you live and let live by not obstructing people's lifestyles.
Homophobia is applied here because of the most primitive reaction in something you do not tolerate is fear and when an animal fears -- as reasearch has proven countless times -- you tend to either fight or flight.
In the workplace, those people who can not tolerate a homosexual lifestyle tend to either quit, or -- as the case to be in this article -- those above you in corporate ladder tend to fight. As the article presented, that fight can come in different forms.
darius
09-23-2003, 12:09 PM
excellent reply leon, thanks
Chicago
09-25-2003, 02:04 PM
my friend here in chitown is gay . . he's not flaming at all though (i dunno why i bring that up, it wouldn't bother me i don't think). anyway, he says he didn't come out (to himself even) till he was say 22 or something, and in high school/college he was a total homophobe and di*khead to gays and was militantly anti-gay.
isn't that crazy?
isn't that crazy?
joeyjoey
09-25-2003, 02:30 PM
It's reaction formation or more likely protecting your ass.
MsRay
09-25-2003, 02:46 PM
Originally posted by Chicago
my friend here in chitown is gay . . he's not flaming at all though (i dunno why i bring that up, it wouldn't bother me i don't think). anyway, he says he didn't come out (to himself even) till he was say 22 or something, and in high school/college he was a total homophobe and di*khead to gays and was militantly anti-gay.
isn't that crazy? I knew several people who didn't come out until they were on their own. I can think of two such persons who didn't come out until the latter half of or following freshman year. Some people for whatever reasons stay in environments that force that seemingly backwards behavior and sometimes get much older before they accept themselves. Sometimes they never do. American Beauty anyone?
my friend here in chitown is gay . . he's not flaming at all though (i dunno why i bring that up, it wouldn't bother me i don't think). anyway, he says he didn't come out (to himself even) till he was say 22 or something, and in high school/college he was a total homophobe and di*khead to gays and was militantly anti-gay.
isn't that crazy? I knew several people who didn't come out until they were on their own. I can think of two such persons who didn't come out until the latter half of or following freshman year. Some people for whatever reasons stay in environments that force that seemingly backwards behavior and sometimes get much older before they accept themselves. Sometimes they never do. American Beauty anyone?
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